optimistx said:
There was a guy who told the he is really an expert to succeed in
marriages, and is happy to give his advice to everyone wanting to have a
happy marriage.
Then there was an innocent question:
"How is your wife"
"She is very happy, and also everyone of my earlier five wives"
Politeness and empathy are not enforceable. But trying to be kind makes
oneself to feel happier, before long. And kindness is contagious.
I think everyone of the regulars are searching some satisfaction for
oneself here, not writing as a duty or obligation.
But the longer the regular has learnt things here, the less the newbies
can give him interesting problems to solve. The disappointment might
become anger, impoliteness, unkindness.
'Where are the good old days when I learnt interesting things every day?
Now there are only stupid questions, repetition of the old ones. Go away
everyone who is not more skilful than I am!'
Well I got to that stage in one online forum I frequent.
Now I don't bother to reply at all. Someone else can.
I only answer stuff where I have a particular interest, gap in my own
knowledge, or feel a witty remark coming on.
I think te same is true of the better posters here.
There are a few court holders in every group - those who spend their
time answering everybody, usually rudely, as if they had some kind of
real status to act as arbiters ..'empty vessels sound loudests' ..then
there are the few who pop up and do answer, clearly, succinctly and
simply. The valuable ones.
Its easy to distinguish between 'this aint a javsacript question: take
it to HTML, stoopid noob' and 'this actually is a CSS issue, but since
you are here and I have the time, try this..'
I suspect the former response comes from those who *have read the
manual* and know the language really well or think they do..and those
who have *used it to solve real life problems* and understand that its
not always obvious where a solution lies. I.e. the perennial problem of
'its in the man pages' and 'but WHICH man page is it in' ??
If one has learn a lot, writing a book about javascript might give
satisfaction for the author and the readers. 'Yucca' Korpela did so: his
book about CSS is enjoyable and accurate, reasonably friendly tone.
Obviously someone with good human relations understanding has been
involved.
Is the writing in the internet such also? You might remember, or check
yourself, if not.
Shrug. I have written a lot of posts, some right, a few wrong, some
cryptic, many receiving praise for lucidity. Writing is a skill, as is
understanding from someone else's perspective WHY they find a particular
point difficult..
All I can say is thank GOD for google and the internet. Problems that
used to take weeks are generally fixed with an hour of googling..
If they are not, they possibly are NOT fixable.