Joachim said:
Keith said:
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I'm approximately as worried about kiki as I am texas right now.
We have differences.
"Kiki" appears to be KM's deliberately offensive nickname for me.
I'll thank you not to use it.
While I accept that you don't like to be called Kiki, I fail to
understand why this is offensive?, mind to explain?
First of all, it's not his actual name, nor even a standard English
nickname for a name like Keith; that's enough in itself to suggest an
intent to be insulting.
Secondly, English nicknames ending in 'i' and 'y' tend to have
diminutive connotations, and are often used to refer to a lover, a
small child, or a pet. When the diminutive form is not clearly
intended as a joke (such as a nickname of "Tiny" for a huge man), the
connotation is often that it is the person's social status which is
diminutive, such as that of a pet relative to it's owner, or a child
relative to an adult, or (in sexist society) women relative to men.
This is often consider (and sometimes intended) to be offensive,
especially if the perception of low social status is not shared by the
person the nickname refers to.
Note the heavy use of weasel wording such as "tend", and "often" in
the above paragraph. The selection of such a nickname is not, in
itself, proof of an intent to insult. However, the single biggest
reason why this particular nickname is offensive is that KM has
tainted it by using it almost exclusively in contexts which make it
quite clear that the connotation of low status is intended.