Dave said:
No, the T stands for Text,...
Not a fan of old musicals? (-:
If somebody were to tell me face to face that I was an idiot for
preferring that they follow established social norms when dealing
with me,...
Something I would grant you the ability to do *only* within the
context of *your* home or *your* office. On public ground you
have *zero* right (repeat: Z*E*R*O) to expect or demand anything.
You can certainly *request*, and if you do so nicely, and if all
other things are equal, I may well grant your request. If your
ego is so overwhelming that you refuse to deal with me, except by
your guidelines, then you probably are someone I could get through
life without dealing with ever.
(And yes, in the small subset of the real world that I prefer to
inhabit, telling people (usually without being all that diplomatic
about it) when they're wrong or when they should go away and bother
somebody else instead is expected according to the established
social norms.)
I would consider your social norms defective or naive. (Not an
uncommon thing for hardcore computer workers and engineers.) I
forget who said it, but "Politeness is the grease on which society
runs" is, I think, a Truth.
(If those are indeed your social norms, I can see why you prefer
to inhabit a small subset of the real world.)
Better would be to grow a thick skin and pay attention to people
when they're telling you something.
Only if that something is (a) something I care to know and (b) is
something the other party can speak authoritatively and correctly
about. Unasked for *opinions* about how I should behave are not
particularly welcome.
Even better would be to not be rude when people try to tell you
things in the first place.
Considering that unasked for advice is a rudeness in itself, I'd
suggest it was the offerer of said advice who "started it".
It's about control. The more I think about life and people, the
more I realize there is a single, almost defining, characteristic
about humans: we try to control as much of our environment as we
can. Some people more so than others. Some *way* more so than
others. Most of Maslow boils down to this single issue, IMO.
I've discovered that engineers and computer programmers are,
perhaps understandably, *extremely* controlling people. This is
good in their work, but can be a problem in social interaction.
They are also often prone to truly believe a problem has only
ONE completely valid solution (another aspect of control).
The extreme focus on text of a certain width, no HTML, specific
rules about quoting and replying.... all control mechanisms.
SOME of us prefer a wilder, less controlled, version of reality.
Some of us also don't much care to *be* controlled.